COLUMN: Tell Me Lies

<p>It seems to me that the world is full of false perceptions. I often sit on the bus and see people walking around in skinny jeans who clearly think that their bottom is a lot smaller than it is. They don’t appear to notice that the denim is strained to breaking point and that they look bulbous in all the wrong places. The same goes for the milky blue-white flesh of an unwisely exposed upper arm or the sportswear on a man who’s likely to pass out running for a bus.</p> <p>By Chris Bridges | 31st March 2013</p> <p></p> <p> </p> <p><img src="http://www.thegayuk.com/communities/8/004/009/928/388/images/4589865141.jpg" width="460" height="352" alt="TGUK" title="TGUK"/></p> <p></p> <p>I see people wearing thin canvas shoes in the snow and I think they must have a mistaken belief that it looks amazing. It actually looks foolhardy and like they haven’t got the money for something warm and sturdy. I once worked with a woman who seemed to not know that there was a back to her head. The front of her hair was teased upwards and immaculately coiffed and styled but the back was always a shoddy mess of bed rumpled locks. I see plenty of people who just need a kindly soul to tell them where they’re going wrong. I think this rule also applies to men who call themselves “straight-acting” on gay dating sites or who claim to be XXL in the genital area. That’s my experience anyway. </p> <p></p> <p>I have skewed perceptions that are perhaps, even odder. My first is that I often think that people are older than me. I can’t seem to get it into my brain that I’m aging and am no longer under 30. I look at people and think of them as middle aged and mature and then have a start as I realise that they’re probably the same age as me or younger. Luckily, I know my limitations and am not inclined towards the Whitney dressed as Britney school of fashion. I know that I’d look like a fool ramming myself into teenage fashions and I steer clear of jeggings at all costs.</p> <p></p> <p>My second belief is that I’m shorter than I actually am. I believe that lots of people are taller than me. It’s fine if they’re standing next to me. I’m not so stupid that I can’t see what’s in front of me. It’s more to do with memory. In spite of being six foot tall I remember events as featuring a much shorter me. It doesn’t take Sigmund Freud to calculate that I maybe have a tiny little inferiority complex.</p> <p></p> <p>My final skewed perception is one that I share with my people who put themselves out there on reality television. I believe that I can sing like a young Aretha Franklin. Regardless of the fact that people run screaming if I begin to warble and even I can hear the flat drone coming from my mouth, I know deep down that I have the voice of an angel. Perhaps I just need a lesson. It only needs to be a short lesson. Five minutes of coaching, maybe, and you’d be amazed at what I could do. I’d pack them in at the 02 Arena. </p> <p></p> <p>Don’t panic though. I’ll restrict my crooning to the privacy of my own home for now. Your ears are safe.</p> <p></p> <p></p> <p> </p> <p><img src="http://www.thegayuk.com/communities/8/004/009/928/388/images/4586001108.jpg" width="380" height="28" alt="" title=""/></p> <p></p> <p><a href="http://www.thegayuk.com/#/magazine/4574334751/Column-The-Hirsute-of-Happiness/5245855">Column: The Hirsute of Happiness</a></p> <p></p> <p><a href="http://www.thegayuk.com/#/magazine/4574334751/BOOK-REVIEW-Backing-Into-Light-My-Father's-Son-by-Colin-Spencer/5267863">Book Review: Backing into Light</a></p> <p></p> <p><a href="http://www.thegayuk.com/#/magazine/4574334751/BOOK-REVIEW-Fanny-And-Stella/5197817">Book Review: Fanny and Stella</a></p> <p></p> <p> </p> <p><img src="http://www.thegayuk.com/communities/8/004/009/928/388/images/4586001056.jpg" width="380" height="28" alt="" title=""/></p> <p><a href="http://www.thegayuk.com/chrisbridges">Chris Bridges</a></p> <p></p> <p> </p>